Have you ever seen a behavior in someone else that turned you off, only to later realize that you are guilty of the same behavior? I have found myself in this place lately. I realized that it is important that I become or am becoming the woman I would like my daughters to be one day. I want my daughters to have their priorities straight and be strong women each with strong character. The hard part about this is that I am their primary role model and they are influenced by me more than anyone else. So I have been doing a lot of self examination and I don’t exactly like some of the things I have forced myself to see. I find it easy to spot someone else’s shortcomings, but when reviewing my own actions, I sometimes miss that I am guilty of doing some of the same things. One trait I see in myself that I can’t stand in others is that I am materialistic. I am so disgusted when people flaunt there possessions or feel that a fancy pair of shoes or an expensive bag can make them better than the next person. But guess what?! I make it a priority to have fancy shoes and expensive bags! Somehow in my mind I am not as bad because I am not showing it off on social media and bragging about it in my social circles. The truth is my children more than anyone else see that these material things hold value to me. And seriously, what stupid goals to have! I would never want my girls to set goals that consist of buying ridiculously expensive stuff to determine their worth. Now don’t get me wrong , I fully believe in caring for yourself and presenting your best self, but this should not mean that you have to spend thousands of dollars to achieve that. I would love for my girls to feel just as good about themselves in a nice clean pressed outfit from a discount super store as they would in a outfit from one of the most expensive brand name stores. Now the big problem for me is that I need to change. I need to stop wasting money on stupid stuff and get my priorities straight. I have to be less brand focused so that my girl don’t grow up to be brand focused. With all the bragging on social media that I see, I really need to be a strong positive role model at home for my girls so they don’t get sucked into that nonsense like I did.